Often, this occurs in terrible hygienic conditions, hastily, drunk, under the yoke of fear and pressure for a stronger hand to force and brings none of the participants either happiness or satisfaction. On the contrary, remains in memory as something unpleasant, painful and ugly. What you do not want to remember and quicker to strike a living.

The first sexual experience nakrepko stamp in the minds of all persons, regardless of their wishes. Especially important is it for women as there are more sensitive and emotional. Unsuccessful first experience very often the cause of frigid woman, her indifference to sex, inability to experience orgasm, sexual disharmony and negative attitudes towards men in general.

And her large lucky if her partner would be the first person knowledgeable, experienced, considerate and cautious. And a loving, of course. For all its subsequent connection, it inadvertently will skip through the experience and chuvstvovaniya its very first night. What will they? Pleasant, not at all or terrible? In very much depends on it ...

The first time, usually painful and frightening and unpleasant. And if a partner grossly and nevnimatelen, still bitter. And do not believe their «advanced» young girlfriend, who for the first time vozneslis to heaven and experienced rayskoe pleasure. This is a lie! This is even physiologically almost impossible, because traumatic (even if the hymen is an elastic, not torn, a stretchable natural barrier). Even if the first man experienced, and attentive, and loving, she is unlikely to be able to experience orgasm. This is a rather exceptional case than the rule.

And if proximity is happening with peers, as young and inexperienced, and it is something not too pleasant, and even curious moments, alas, can not be avoided. But all reparable, if young people are making it for love, emotional attachment, knowingly and voluntarily. And most importantly carefully. And if all else is happening? Incidentally, the stupidity, fear ...

Because of this absurd and painful experience she often makes the impression of frustration and have a distaste for sex sometimes for years. Again, many women's issues in sex that is associated with a poor first sex experience.

Why do the girls did come to this

1. Because of the difference in motivation and levels of sexual development of boys and girls in adolescence and early youth. It relates to how they look at the issues of love and friendship. Girl aged 14 - 18 years old wonder of romantic love, Platonic love relationship, tender friendship. They love to read love novels and watching melodrama and think of a man and a woman in a beautiful and romantic spirit of mutual sympathy, good relations tenderness. They have their dreams is very far from animal instincts and impulses flesh, which is dormant in them. Exhibiting activity on the part of young men frightens them offs, resulting in confusion and even rasstraivaet. Sexuality them much prosnetsja later. The youths also some 17 - 24 years, first unconsciously, and then all have some very specific bodily desire for closeness with the girl. They want sex. And not long before dorosli high spiritual relationship with a woman. It appears they are later in adulthood. And while their lead with a tremendous shock to the body. The girl is not aware of this, giving way to his wishes, taking them for their love of high spiritual order. Very often, initially by the relationship, which subtract from the romantic novels and podsmotreny in films, seem love, and it is decided at the first attempt. Some girls do not dogadyvayutsya that they are playing with fire, exposing part of its alluring figure, legs, chest. They provoke guys his clothes, behavior, like allowing them to want. Many guys are very hard to resist that. So there are random and early communication, caused only unendurable desire rapprochement. Unfortunately, they are far from true love and closeness, while the inexperienced young people perceived that way.

2. She concedes requests, desires and threats because of the fear of being rejected, mocked, be worse than others, different from the collectively formed the image of «his girls», which prevails over its peers in society. That is, is this step out of fear. But not for love. Sometimes it happens by chance in an uncontrolled and unconscious attraction under the influence of alcohol. In such cases, the girl is safe or what. Especially if it is not very legible in the company, and among her entourage have guys with a dubious reputation. Neither do good this experience is not as a rule. And the great love, much less marriage, as each secret dreams, and there is no smells.

3. Some modern girls have a sexual relationship as Epatage, in retaliation, a nuisance to parents to proslyt peer advanced, for the sake of interest, to look older, attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex. Most of these eksperimentatorsh grow cynical and indifferent to the normal human relationships, women. They destroy any relationships to bed, they succeed in the art of bodily comfort. But few of them able to really relax during sex. Because random communication and experimentation, alas, not reinforce their femininity and destroy him, devastated their soul, which loses the ability to complicity, empathy and thin internal chuvstvovaniya another person. I do not believe that the best wife went to prostitutes. For the simple reason that the best wife - is, first of all, loved people. Spiritually close. You can take possession of thousands of relaxation techniques in bed, learn to play thousands of sexual games, but never learn to be a woman, cushioned, goodwill and tolerance of one single man who would become your husband.

When a woman sells her body for many, whether for the experiment and their own pleasure or for money, they learn to experience selfless love. She loses himself as a woman, with each new partner is not buying, but losing part of his soul. Because so arranged her body, it can not exist separately from the minds and hearts. Because of sexual relations includes all of its body. When it comes to sex, she takes on men's physical strength and energy plan, but pays a portion of its internal substance.

When this is not happening, and happening naked sex, women in the «woman» have not yet or not.

I admit that this is only the subjective views of the author, and that modern life is much loyalty belongs to the sex. But no one can convince me that by engaging in sexual relations with men, a woman never thinks about love, even for a moment, though corner of his consciousness, but only concerned about the trivial matter of sexual discharge or opportunity pouprazhnyatsya in bed. Show me the woman I want to see it in their eyes!

I think for every question the girl first night - one of the most important questions of life. Despite everything. Because it creates all her future life with men and is directly related to her feeling of happiness. Therefore, it should be treated as possible carefully and responsibly.

I think in any case it is not:

• Go.

• strives to be, as everyone. Adjusts to the standard and the requirements FASHION (which may be fashion, when it comes to your own life that gives you only once and correct, edit and convert something it has not ever get?).

• afraid to be rejected (love, real love, if it takes place not be verified in such a questionable way).

• go to this irresponsible, flighty, thoughtless, without considering the consequences.

• DO IT FOR EXPERIMENT of dubious identity. And if we decide to know everything in this life, choose a partner with aggravating circumstances.

• do so on landing, in the basement, in the gateway, etc. There is a risk that you are very not like it, and turn from it forever.

• go for this if you are unsure what LOVE this person. Try to find out whether you love or «just» some other way. Here you will see it soon becomes clear to you and without sex.

• tie MEN Thus, if you are looking for a man rather than male. There is a risk that, granting their wish, he simply abandon you. A man who a woman need only this tie is not possible, because sooner or later on its way to meet other, more attractive female, and uvlechet it in the new network.

• Use sex as a provocation and blackmail. Unless you do not Mata Hari, it is unlikely to make you happy. Yes, and what it all over, remember ...

I think that feeling of happiness for women, as well as for men who are not related to sexual détente, but with the higher and fine plan. Emotional closeness, affection, respect and human warmth. And, of course, harmonious, deep and comprehensive physical contact, which can not be hastily, in the entrance, as horrible and with whom horrible ... So why are you the first most important experience of life rushed and ride drift? So that he later life was over you like a sword of Damocles your women unhappy? You do not want it! So do not rush to become a woman, the more that a sense and knowledge of her femininity is linked only formally ...